She Reformed

When I was pregnant, me and my husband would sit down at the end of the day and think about what our lives with the baby will be like. What our lives could be like few months and years down the line. No doubt our lives, priorities and schedules changed once we had our daughter.  I heard and read all the stories of couples commenting how their relationship was "never the same" once they had a child. That their professional life withers and  social life vanishes as does their freedom.  I can honestly say from my experience even though A LOT of things are not the same (including marriage) as we have new roles besides husband and wife, I genuinely believe our relationship with our spouse CAN be better and healthier than it ever was. Change does not have to be negative.  When we were preparing for the baby's arrival, me and my husband talked about having realistic expectations as a couple. We made a decision that our marriage cannot take a backseat or no longer be made a prior

New year, month and new list of books for me to go through! I always love digging into a new book at the start of a new month, and I have a couple of good ones to share!  The books I'm sharing with you today are both from Bishop TD Jakes (If you do not know who he is please search his teachings on YouTube, he is a gifted speaker as well as writer who will leave you with gold pieces of wisdom and make you reflect on your life!) Maximize the moment by TD Jakes  If like me, you have a habit of getting stuck in the past not being able to focus on the present then you will be blessed with the contents of this book. In every chapter there is something given for the reader to reflect on and gives wisdom of how to get unstuck from the past in order to make the most of the present. I finished reading this in two days as I could resonate with just about every page in this book. The enemy has came to kill and destroy and one thing he can do to achieve this is using our past against us (whethe

"Enjoying life begins with the thoughts you choose to think" I remember reading this is my daily devotional one evening and thinking "wow. Is it really that simple?" Is the key to enjoying our lives dependant simply on how we look at things? It took me a long time to grasp that no matter what is going on my life I can CHOOSE to be happy. Not just pretending to be happy or simply saying aloud "I am happy today", but genuinely being happy no matter what I am facing. Truth is, this is a lot easier said than done. I knew to some extent there was power in perspective, but still I was not cautious of what thoughts I was allowing to reside in my mind. Before I got saved I was a very pessimistic individual. I would see the worst case scenario in a situation before the positive (if I could see the positive at all). It's fair to say I did not "choose" what I thought, allowing anything and everything to go through my train of thinking. As belie

“There are two types of approval: one is from people, and the other is from God. We want people to approve of us, but if we become addicted to their approval, if we have to have it and are ready to do whatever they demand to get it, we lose our freedom. If we trust God for approval, we are freed from the addiction of approval .”    “We suffer much agony because we try to get from people what only God can give us, which is a sense of worth and value. Look to God for what you need, not to people. Look”     Hey fellow booklovers, If like me you have had a hard time dealing with insecurity and being people pleaser then this book is for you. This is a read that is straightforward and direct, and to be honest it might make some people uncomfortable. In this book, Meyer is encouraging the reader to overcome an addiction of people pleasing. The thing is that the intention to please others might be good, but the danger is that it can soon become a habit that controls our live

Speak and publish fearlessly the word of God (Philippians 1:14) I have personally seen the difference speaking the word of God does to my day. Not only speaking the word out loud, but declaring it over my life. Speaking the word over the life of my family and loved ones, over situations that I cannot control. There are different ways I have learned to speak fearlessly. I would make a list of affirmations and verses and declare them on a frequent basis. Something that I found happening when I would do this is my "feelings" would get in the way. I didn't feel like what I was saying was true. This might be the case for others. For example we can be so consumed in guilt that if we were to say out loud "we are the righteousness of God made holy and blameless through Christ" we wouldn't believe it. That was a struggle for me, but I had to make a choice to uphold the word over what I feel or went through. I came to a point where I wanted to speak in line

The title of this post might catch your eye, but is your plans and vision for the future  acting up? 2020 not being "your year"? Are things not going according to your plan? The revelation I received when I was going through this scenario was my timeline wasn't acting up but was in fact aligning with God's. I just had to get comfortable with not knowing what exactly that involves or looks like.  The truth is this: God has a plan and purpose for your life. We might not fully understand it or see it in full context, but we can be assured that if we walk in His will and follow Him then our paths will be made straight. Trusting God and His plans with our timeline however involves letting go and releasing our own ideas and vision boards over to Him to get involved in. The truth is He can make a better vision board for us than we ever could for ourselves.  Letting go of our timeline is submitting to God our schedule, our "5 year plan", our hopes and desires f